Trust defined is the faith or belief that things are going to happen a certain kind of way. For example, that people are going to be loyal, or stand by their commitments. In relationships, trust often becomes a defining factor to the success of the pairing. We may trust in things, hold things in trust, trust in each other, etc. Like faith, trust often refers to the unknown, as with “we trust everything will be okay.” Trust can also be a controlling kind of thing as when we trust each other with truths or behaviors that fit our agenda. For instance, “I’m trusting you not to fail me” or “I’m trusting you to be true, or not lie.”
Often times our rules of love are based on trust. Many people fall “out of love” when they feel their trust has been betrayed. (See Love at http://www.wakingupwithpatrick.com).
As presence comes to the forefront of our lives, we begin to see trust differently. We come to the knowledge that trust is a bit of an illusion. The majority of us are entrusted with this wonderful life we have been given. Entrusted with this physical form, body, temple, whatever you want to call it, yet fail ourselves by not doing everything in our power to honor, and take care of ourselves as we should; yet, we make expectations of others when we entrust them with the secrets, our observations, and our hearts. We want to trust them yet we can’t trust ourselves to take care of us.
The student of meditation comes to the understanding that laying the burden of trust upon another is more about control than anything else. If I tell you I’m going to trust you not to tell this story or that story or entrust you to follow through on a mission or desire of mine, I’m really seeking a bit of control over you. And watch out if you fail my “trust!”
You may think of trust as a bit of an illusion. See yourself clearly, see others clearly (not as you think they are) and the need to trust will fade.
We should be able to trust that people will stand by us; do as they say, be loyal, etc.; yet, we really are not seeing the nature of others. If we did we would not be putting such great responsibilities on each other.
We set each other up to fail. If you betray my trust (fail my attempt to control you), I will shun you and separate myself from you. As we see each other more clearly we find as much as we want to trust, we are all subject to fail the expectations of others.
You can remove many aspects of the need for trust from your life. If you don’t want it repeated, don’t say it. If you say it, be prepared for it to come back to you. If you want trust in a relationship, go for it, but be prepared in the event of its failure. Take the responsibility off of others to meet your expectations; see them as they are. Move towards the positive, remove yourself from the negative. If another fails your trust, or expectations, learn, grow, decide and move forward if necessary.
A meditation, try it out here or there, when it comes to mind or not. Focus your attention on something as you would during meditation. Consider in the moment your dealings with others, mainly putting expectations on them in areas of trust. Digest what your mind is telling you; don’t judge the thoughts, just observe. Observe if the words “can I trust” or “I’m trusting you” lead to emotions that resemble control or putting expectations on others that will set them up to fail. Bringing conscious awareness to the thoughts may very well change your desire to continue to play the trust game. Not because you chose to drop this controlling behavior, but rather it fades on its own as presence and understanding come forward in your life.
It’s a new day. Your day.
Time often refers to the length or duration of a happening. A man made system of calculations, which allows us to measure the length or period in which something has, is, or will be going on. Some say that time is a funny thing. We believe we share time, save time, are given time, donate time, look for time, cherish time, focus on time, wish for time, sell time, or even buy time, etc. People say things such as “time is fleeting, there’s not enough, it never seems to be the right time.” For our intent and purposes, time’s origin, concept and its use is something to be observed.
The student sat with the teacher and said, “I understand that time is a mind made concept that humans created in order for us to structure our societies around. I know, science uses the concept to define the length of perceived existence in some sort of measurable terms, which of course only points to this reality because it is said to be impossible for humans to comprehend eternity. I am aware the very calendar we use to structure our system of timekeeping is based on the rotation of earth around the sun flying through this galaxy at an incredible speed. Our months, weeks, and days are based on the recurring course of the sun and the moon. Therefore, depending on what planet you live on and what sun you spin around the possible calendar scenarios is as infinite as the galaxy itself. Finally, I am aware that many theologians, scientists and mystics alike often share the opinion that time does not exist.” The teacher sat back in their chair and with a smile, looked at the student and said, “Yes.”
Meditate with time, when it comes to your mind here and there, meditate on time, or not. Here’s one, even fun for some, it includes some brain training. Look at clock, bring the current time to your awareness (tell yourself what time it is). As with other meditations if a thought or fantasy comes to your mind observe it and return your focus to your observations of what time it is. Think to yourself what time it would be two hours from the moment. See if with practice or instantly, if your mind reminds you of the time two hours later. You could try practicing when you go to bed. Look at the time, tell yourself what time you want to wake up and see what happens. Either set your alarm after the wake time as back up or tell yourself to wake ten minutes before the alarm. See what happens, maybe nothing, maybe you learn something about your conscious self and even help it to move forward in your life. It’s a new day. Your day!
Awareness: The perception, knowledge, or understanding of a happening, situation, or tangible object. Aware understanding, for our purposes, is a thoughtful, nonjudgmental, tolerant, and even sympatric observation of ourselves, the individual or a humanity based situation, etc. Aware knowledge, when applied to meditation practices, is the ultimate and undeniable knowing of the unquestionable truth of all existence, “We are, this is…” Aware perception, is an awareness of people, places, and things through our senses, emotions or notion. Which includes an aware state from presence and of our own divinity.
The teacher tells the student, “I am aware that I am attempting to bring to verse that which is beyond word. I am trying to point you to the state of conscious present awareness, that which is beyond description, that which must be felt, experienced, and tasted to be known.”
Awareness includes bringing to the conscious mind everything we observe externally as well as what we observe going on in our minds. The simple act of thought or tangible objects, situations, emotions, etc. brings them to a certain level of consciousness. Similar to bringing something out of darkness and into the light. The student and the teacher often find that as their observations move forward in their minds, cognizant of any additional thoughts they add to the observations, things change. That’s one of the things meditation does. When practicing meditation you observe thought, (bring thought to your awareness) while doing so you abide by the rules, aware of any positive or negative responses you add to your observation. Then allow the thought to pass like wind on the sand, conscious of its existence yet unaffected by its effects, consciously aware, yet untouched.
Awareness is included in our meditation practices as part of waking up. For some, it may in fact be the key essential part of their journey towards conscious presence. For the purpose of our current studies we use awareness to separate from much of the conditioning going on in our minds. Often times the student and the teacher bring their awareness to the fundamental facts of our existence. We are a lifeform evolving on this planet with a multitude of other lifeforms, including those of the past and present, spinning around this ball we call earth, rotating around a star we call the sun flying through a galaxy at high speed, flying through a galaxy which is one of many in a universe beyond human comprehension. We are aware we are a part of this natural unfolding of all that is.
A simple meditation, an awareness presentation, try it here and there, when it comes to your mind, or not. Aware that you have a choice. Take some moments and say in your mind everything that you are aware of as it unfolds in the moment: the sounds, the level of light, the space you are in, the sensations in your body, the thoughts in your mind, etc. Bring your awareness to your reaction to these observations; with practice you could do this well. With practice, this could assist you in separating yourself from the workings of your mind. As an advanced mediation you could bring your attention to the silence and the stillness underneath of everything going on around you and even the stillness under the stream of thought.
It’s a new day. Your day.
Waking up, simply defined, means to become roused from sleep or from an inactive or tranquil state, such as lounging or day dreaming. Some refer to waking up as that moment in your life where you find true meaning for yourself or your perceived destiny. In terms of spirituality, it often points to the “self” transcending to higher levels of consciousness of the state of experiencing love and joy beyond the confines of the spoken language. Others still refer to waking up as the different steps you achieve on the journey of enlightenment. Regarding enlightenment, as a process not a destination, which you move more deeply into as you apply the knowledge you acquire along the way. Waking up as the process which leads to total awareness or, for some, the ultimate state of conscious awareness. Presence.
The majority of us do not want to wake up. We are quite content in our slumber. Waking up can be hard, a struggle, an unpleasant wrestling match with that which we have come to believe and what we believe is truth. Waking up often means change. Change which challenges your beliefs, ideals and many of the fantasies that you have become comfortable with. Most of us don’t like changes. We are happy with the illusions our minds have settled with. Illusions created by our programing, conditioning, societal norms, etc.
They say the wise teacher will not challenge you to wake up, they will leave you in your sleep, knowing the knowledge they present and direction they point you in will lead you to great challenges and moments of suffering you have yet to endure. Our society does that, leaves them as they are, better they live in fantasy then try to struggle with the truth. This teacher chooses to take the risk. To tell you to wake up. Wake up from that mind made self that has gotten you to where you are now. Whether it be a state of repetitive suffering or an ego motivated existence. Wake up and find you are not the stream of thought, you are not the things you have been telling yourself. You can wake up to knowledge of your own glory, grace and divinity. To find for yourself, you are what you are looking for in the world. Everything you want and need you already have: peace, love and joy. It is the nightmare of the thought stream the keeps you from experience of the glory of life. You can wake.
A simple meditation: Meditation wakes you up. It separates you from the repetitive, conditioned workings of your mind and allows true concise thinking and awareness to come to the forefront of your life. Try this here and there, when it comes your mind, or not… Bring your attention to how you feel and what goes on in your mind as you wake from sleep or a relaxing moment. You could observe how it feels as you come out of a meditative state after some meditations. Observe any conflict your mind creates as you awaken or, on the other hand, any joy or exhilaration you may experience as you awaken. Consider how these feelings would apply or be similar to any joy or struggle you come across as you continue on your journey of enlightenment.
It’s a new day… your day.
“You are what you are looking for in the world.”
“This teacher chooses to take the risk. To tell you to wake up.”
Consciousness. Some define it as the state of being (which some call presence) awake (not in the dreams of thought) and aware of your surroundings and the happenings outside of your mind, as well as, inside your mind. Many will tell you that consciousness is love and love is consciousness. Many also believe it to be the awareness of our own existence, our minds and our beings, i.e. self-awareness. Some teachers point to consciousness as the awareness of all that exists. As if consciousness is the presence that underlies all of existence and is somehow aware of its own existence. As the student holds no limits on possibility, we are aware that no answers are finite.
You may have heard it before, perhaps even said it yourself: “oh, I was so busy in my thoughts that I was unaware of what was going on around me.” Or “I never would have mentioned it, had I known that.” “I was unaware of this, because I was busy with that.” “I was so preoccupied with this, I missed that.” “I was so engulfed by the repetitive workings of my conditioned, programed mind that I missed wonderful moments in my life. I was so unaware that I was spending a life time busy in my mind, while the true joy and splendor of the human existence passed me by. I was unaware. I was unconscious…”
A simple meditation, try it out here and there, when it comes to your mind, or not: You may be of a conscious level of being where you can make a choice or, maybe not quite yet. If you are not yet, that’s ok, you are in the process of waking up, be conscious of that, be aware of the process. Meditate on the moments when your awareness kicks in and on the moments when you realize that you are so deeply fixed on a thought that you lost awareness of the moment and the happenings going on inside and outside of you. It’s ok. Be aware of the additional conflict you mind creates when you realize you’re in there. Bring your attention to the moment (count your breaths, look at a tree, do whatever you do. Use whatever you use as a focus for your meditations), then point out to yourself your conscious awareness of what just happened. You were in thought, recognized you were there, focused on the moment and returned to presence. You returned to conscious awareness of the moment and all it contains.
It’s a new day, a new moment… Yours!