Something we have in common is joy. Joy is joy, pleasure is pleasure and fear is fear. There are of course different depths to each of these emotions. When I cry it feels the same as when you cry, the reason for the tears really doesn’t matter, the shared experience is the suffering; suffering feels the same for all of us. What frightens me may not frighten you; yet the experience of fear is the same. What brings one person pleasure may not bring another person pleasure, but pleasure is pleasure. What brings you joy and what brings joy to the person next to you may be different, but the experience of joy is the same.
We are sharing the human experience. Through meditation (as we separate from the programmed conditioned mind) we tune into our true nature and find that we have more in common than we ever realized. The depths of our emotions are different, the experience is the same.